Managing bipolar effectively takes patience because it takes time to find out what works well for you. For example, in the last 17 years, I’ve learned to take everything with a grain of salt, and have trained myself to always take a step back before defining any situation. This is important to me because when I would listen to the negative noise in my mind, it would cause unnecessary stress, attracting more negative energy. I’ve written about the power of positive energy and that what you put out is what you let in.
In other words, negative energy attracts negative thoughts and vice versa with positive energy attracting positive thoughts. Bipolar disorder is a mental illness and the way you define situations and view your environment can play a major role in managing triggers. Would you agree that stress, anxiety, sleep pattern, and certain events in your life have been known to trigger a manic episode? I know for certain after living and managing bipolar for 17 years that the onset of stress because of a big event or work would be a definite trigger in my life.
Learning to Control the Noise
Before I go in-depth, I want to tell you a little bit more about controlling the noise. This was something I learned from calmdownmind.com, and works great at being able to diffuse a stressful situation quickly. I believe the difference between a stressful situation and one that doesn’t cause any stress at all is determined by learning how to accept the noise in your mind and letting go of it. It’s learning to accept the noise as an ally (team) rather than an enemy. For example, if you can control the noise and view it as a force of nature; the noise provides insight into your life, makes you more aware, and is essential for you to see the finer things in life, then you’ll stop fighting it. It’s only when you don’t accept the noises and learn to live with them as part of your growth that you attract stress, anxiety and mental confusion. All 3 are the main triggers of a manic episode (stress, anxiety, poor sleep pattern).
If you want to successfully manage bipolar then you must know how to manage the noises in your mind. You should learn to live with them and accept them as just “noise” making you better as you go through life. For example, it’s through the constant noise in my head that I found ways to better myself. If the noise wasn’t there, I would have no reason to strive for peace and attain the positive state of being. I wouldn’t know how to appreciate the smaller things in life, which provide peace, joy, and happiness.
Here are a few passages from calmdownmind.com to help you manage the noise in your mind:
You Cannot Fix the Noise by Using Techniques
“People try to shut down their mind and force silence upon it, but that never works out too well. It’s like trying to shut someone up by putting a plaster on their mouth. The moment you remove the plaster they are going to shout back at you more vigorously.
Trying to silence mind is like a temporary fix. People take drugs, drink alcohol or take sleeping pills to find relief from the tormenting voices in their head.” – calmdownmind.com
If you keep fighting to stop the noise, you’ll fail big time because this is impossible. I get asked this question a lot of the time— How do I stop the noise in my mind? The truth is, the noise is beautiful so learn to embrace it going forward.
As long as your alive, you’re going to have constant noise in your mind, but it’s how you define this noise that will allow you to find peace. For example, I view the noise in my mind as a constant teacher, teaching me how to better myself and find ways to manage certain situations better.
Burying the noise is only going to be a temporary fix and soon this noise will be set free, coming at you even harder. You should never bury the noise, but find creative ways to manage it and find the positive in it. Here’s a quick scenario:
If you have noise in your mind caused from an intense fight with your friend, stop replaying the fight in your mind because this is negative noise and will only attract negative energy. Next, don’t bury it because the tension is still there and will soon arise the next time you see your friend. I would analyze the noise and/or situation and find ways to better handle it going forward. You can approach it using different words, in a different setting, and at a different time. Maybe avoid bringing it up all together.
The main point to take away from this is that noise is constant and always surrounding you so it’s better to learn to accept it and live with it. The better you can learn to do this the less negative effect it will have on your mental state.
Letting Go is Simply About Giving Up Control
“Stop trying to figure out life and just let life move you.
Only the mind is always trying to figure out, fix and struggle through life. You don’t have to struggle at all, if you are just willing to let go completely. If you notice, nothing in nature is in “struggle”.
Something in you really wants to “let go” of all control and become free. Follow this impulse, for this is the call of heart.” – calmdownmind.com
In my previous article I introduced the concept of “letting go” and not fighting the natural energy of life. You can’t slow or change the energy of life and things are going to unfold the way they are supposed to. The only way to truly be happy is to “let go” and stop struggling with events, thoughts, and the energy surrounding you. I know much of my internal stress and triggers from bipolar had to do with trying to find the answer to everything. My mind would take me in circles trying to find out the answers to what happened, and when I wasn’t able to, I would make up my own answers. These are all temporary fixes and will only lead to a dead end. An end which normally lead to further stress, anxiety and lack of sleep because I would be fighting the thoughts the entire night.
Understanding and learning to adopt the practice of letting go is very important; through this practice, you’ll learn to accept things “as is”. You’ll learn to let them play out the way they are meant to be, resulting in a more natural outcome. It’s only when you try to find things out and start to poke around that you change the natural desire of this world. Remember,
“If you notice, nothing in nature is in “struggle”.
This means anything natural has no struggle; it’s only when your mind starts to force things, create things, and define things that something starts to become a struggle or turn negative. When living with bipolar, things are already more sensitive in the way you view situations and define them, which is why you should start to practice letting go and letting things unfold naturally.
Letting go of the noise and accepting it is very important. You’ve noticed throughout my content I haven’t said to bury the noise or forget about it because that is a temporary solution. I’m a strong believer when you bury your mental noise, there will be negative karma surrounding it, which can come bite you in the ass later. Living with bipolar disorder for 17 years has taught me to let go and just accept the things happening around me.
No matter what changes, events or situations I face in life, I’ve learned to just accept them as a learning curve and pull out valuable lessons, which help me better myself going forward.
Your assignment after reading this:
1. Practice accepting the noise (voices) in your head. Whenever you are faced with negative noise, don’t push the thoughts away, and don’t resist. Practice letting go and accepting them without sudden action. It’s only when you let go that you’ll be able to find the positive afterwards.
2. Don’t bury the noise because that is a temporary solution. Anything can trigger them to rise again, which will cause you further stress and anxiety. Both are not good when managing bipolar disorder.
3. Practice not trying to fix things all the time. Sometimes things must fix themselves on their own through time, and I believe time is the most powerful form of healing. If you try and find the answer to everything and can’t, your mind will start to create temporary answers for the time being. These are not genuine outcomes and will only provide temporary sanity.
Let things go and allow the universe to take its course; it will provide you the silence you need to manage your bipolar effectively. Remember, the biggest thing I have learned living with bipolar disorder for 17 years is that your mind is responsible for your manic episodes. Managing bipolar has everything to do with how you view your environment.
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