One of my biggest challenges has been to create lasting change. I know for changes to be of any value they must be consistent and permanent. For example, imagine you want to lose weight, but only go to the gym twice then stop. Your attempt at losing weight with this routine will get you nowhere. Over the years, I’ve learned a lot about myself and what helps create lasting change. I want to share some of my strategies with you and credit Anthony Robbins book – Awaken the Giant Within for providing me with the support I need.
One thing that stopped me for years from changing my negative habits was my fear of being in an uncomfortable zone. As humans, it’s normal to stay where your comfortable because it’s the area of least resistance. In this zone, you don’t have to put yourself through any pain or hard work. Another name for this area is “lazy zone” because you don’t have to do anything more than what you’ve been comfortable with. We fear to make changes because we don’t know what to expect when trying new things. This is the same reason why some businesses never prosper because they fail to take risks. You’ve probably heard – the higher the risk, the higher the reward. Anyways, for a long time, I wanted to stay stagnant and not change what I’m comfortable with. But, there’s a problem with this mentality…
You can never grow or change anything staying where you are. To make positive changes, you need to step out of your comfort zone. So, here’s what I understand about creating long lasting change and it can be broken down into three principles.
Raise Your Standards
For any change to be permanent, you need to expect more out of yourself. I’ve always known my potential, but it wasn’t until I saw the disappointment in people close to me that I couldn’t tolerate the way I was anymore. I knew right then I had to make a change so wrote down a list of goals and committed to them. I raised my standards and what I expected out of myself. If you want to make a lasting change, you need to hold yourself to a higher standard forcing you to work harder.
Change Your Limiting Belief System
Raising your standards will accomplish nothing if you don’t change your limiting beliefs. You need to believe that you can conquer anything you want if you put your mind to it. A limiting belief system is very destructive because it will stop you from even trying. Think about it, your beliefs are responsible for your every action, thought, and emotion. So, each one will not experience any growth if you have a negative belief system. Previously, I’ve written about the power of positive thinking, and how this system can be used to conquer negative thoughts. I encourage all of you to read it and implement the strategies provided.
“Empowering beliefs – this sense of certainty – is the force behind any great success throughout history.” – Anthony Robbins
Change Your Strategy
Your ability to keep trying and pushing forward is the difference between success and failure. You’ve raised your standards, changed your limiting beliefs, and now it’s time to find a way to get conquer them. If your truly set on conquering your dreams, then you’ll let nothing stop you from reaching your end goal. It doesn’t matter how many times you fail because you’ll find another way to get the job done. Here’s what I’ve learned about lasting change…
The best way to make progress is by using the successful strategies others have used before you. This can be applied to anything, for example, in business one of the best ways to limit your mistakes is by following those in business before you. Learn from them, implement what they’ve taught you, and continue making changes by setting even higher standards. Learning from those before you will save you a lot of time. You can use this time to fine-tune and reshape the strategies to make them more effective.
We need to understand that our patterns of thinking are the biggest roadblocks we have in life. It’s our low standards, limiting beliefs, and failure to try new things that ultimately stop our growth. But, the second you decide to make changes, and act, you can make progress towards conquering your goals. If you’re not happy, think about what’s stopping you from making lasting change and then raise your standards. This step is a natural force that will move you closer to your end goals.