Here’s a definition of the word “Hope”,
“a feeling of expectation and desire for a certain thing to happen.”
Ever since I was first diagnosed, I’ve always hoped to accomplish my goals in life. I’ve always had big plans in life because I wanted to be someone special, and someone who made a huge difference in this world. In the end, I wanted my legacy to be of someone who has helped people during their tough times.
What better way than to help those who have been diagnosed with Bipolar…right?
“Bipolar Disorder” is something I can relate to because I’ve been living with it since 2000, and have learned a lot along the way. I know making certain changes in the way you live life is very important because in all honesty, those who suffer from bipolar have a sensitive mind. However, it’s important to note your mind is beautiful, and today’s reality might NOT be tomorrow. What do I mean?
Today, you’ll be sensitive to a thought or process, but tomorrow, after you’ve understood its meaning or been able to define it, you’ll be just fine. In other words, it’s “hope” that gives you the certainty that you’ll be fine dealing with a situation going forward. It’s having hope that gives you the expectation to “NOT” let something bother you, and allows you to live a normal life going forward.
However, I’m surprised at the amount of people I’ve met who don’t believe they can do something or be someone special even when they’ve been diagnosed with “bipolar”. As a matter of fact, I’m speaking from my own experience because for many years, I’ve lived with the thought that I’m NOT good enough.
I always believed that others who are NOT bipolar will always have an upper edge over me no matter what I try to conquer in life. It’s only when I started to transform my life that I started to see changes in everything I do. Here’s the truth,
In the end, no matter if you’re bipolar or not, you have to keep transforming to be better because this is what allows you to view situations differently. By transforming your belief system, what you once viewed as disappointing or alarming, you’ll know what a blessing in disguise is. One of the main things I’ve learned over years is things always happen for a reason, and are never as bad as they seem.
This is what helps me keep my mood stable because I’ve transformed into someone who never expects anything in return. If you think long and hard about what triggers your mood swings, you’ll notice a pattern develop. For example…
- You do something and expect it in return. When the person doesn’t reciprocate, you’re left unfulfilled.
- When you have high expectations, and these depend on others. It’s easy for you to control your expectations, but you can never control others. I remember one of my major trigger points was when I expected too much from people.
- Lack of sleep
- Poor communication
Before I continue,
I put together a series on how to track your emotions to better understand your trigger points. This will help you avoid negative situations before they happen. You’ll notice everyone of these factors listed above have a direct connection to your emotions…right? I believe it’s these emotional triggers which lead to episodes.
Check out my series…
I’ve just mentioned a few above, but you’ve notice a pattern developing…right? Much of what’s mentioned above is your dependency on others, and when you can transform yourself to be self-reliant, you’ll be able to dictate your mood. I’ll like to tie this to the title of this blog post, so in other words,
It’s having hope your outlook on situations will improve, and this begins with the ability to continuously transform yourself over time.
Personally, when I look back from the time I was diagnosed in 2000 until now, I’ve noticed many things that bothered me or triggered my mood swings no longer affect me the way they do. I also remember making a constant effort along the way to change my view on things. For example:
- When someone doesn’t call me back right away, this doesn’t mean they don’t respect me, but maybe they are just busy.
- When something negative happens, which I feel will haunt me for the rest of my life, usually isn’t as bad I thought it was when it happened.
- When people don’t call me to come out, I use to think they didn’t want me around, but after analyzing the situation, I realized it’s maybe because the times they did, I would always back out of plans.
These are just a few, but you can see how, in these situations I’m just as much responsible, and it’s having hope that things would get better that led to my transformation so now I blame myself instead of blaming others. Understanding you’re responsible is a great way to deal with many situations because it gives you a sense of control, and a reason to find ways for improvement. This leads me to my next point,
When you take control of a situation, especially when bipolar, you have an easier time controlling your mood swings. Here’s what I learned, and I’m speaking from my OWN personal experience.
I would always have a relapse when I felt others were treating me bad or they did something to me that left me feeling worthless. I never had control over this situation and the reason behind their actions. Why? You cannot control what others are thinking and why they did what they did, however, you can always control what you are thinking and what you’ll do going forward…right?
Taking control of my emotions and the reasoning behind a situation will allow you to define situations in a more positive light. This means you’ve just decreased the chance of having a mood swing or going into a state of depression. This also means you can make the necessary transformation within you to deal with these situations better.
It’s this control that has allowed me to stabilize my mood swings as they apply to certain situations. However, here’s something else I want all of you to keep in mind,
As humans, we are faced with new problems and/or situations every day. This is inevitable, which means it’s bound to happen, but it’s the ever evolving transforming and change we make that allows us to keep pushing forward in life. Even though many of us do suffer from “bipolar”, and certain situations can trigger an episode, it’s important we have “hope”. It’s important we have hope that…
- things will improve eventually
- we control our destiny
- we can do anything we put our minds to
- no one is better than us or smarter, but just harder working
- deep inside, we have the desire to transform our lives when we want to
I thought about the title of this post for a day before publishing, and to be honest, it was the last thing I wrote. I had written out the content before even adding a title because it made it easier to choose something short and right to the point, but that also represents this content in its entirety.
Before wrapping this up, I want to mention something that I keep in my subconscious. This is a phrase that wasn’t always on my mind, but it became important during my transformation stage. I’m sure many of you have heard of the phrase “It’s Always Mind Over Matter.” If you haven’t, let me explain what it means to me and how I use it every day…
In short, it means:
“The power of the mind to control and influence the body and the physical world generally”
In other words, it means your mind controls almost every situation, and what your mind thinks is generally how you’ll view the world. This is why mental health is a very important topic these days, and awareness has grown threefold over the last few years. This can work in two ways, which is why it’s important to transform your thinking process.
First, it can be used to turn a negative situation into a positive situation by viewing it from your own perspective. No matter how bad, you can view it as something you ultimately control and define it in a way that plays NO influence in your life. This means you can diffuse the negative energy from it, hence keeping your mind positive.
Next, what often affects bipolar people is their ability to view a situation as negative, and this continues to torment them for a lengthy period of time. As a matter of fact, this is what plagued me for several years when I first got diagnosed, and it’s only recently that I’ve found constructive ways to deal with them.
It’s true your mind can definitely play tricks on you, and being “bipolar” has definitely worked against me for several years. A negative thought process would lead to a nasty mood swing that would throw me into a cycle for several days. In other words, it would trigger an episode that would take me into a deep depression for several days. In the end,
It’s having hope things will eventually be fine that led to my ultimate transformation. I began to study each situation, looking for specific trigger points, and found creative ways to deal with each of them.
I’ll set up a section where we all can discuss different strategies to handle day-to-day situations we all face. It’s a good way to start the transformation process, and find how certain tips help you deal with the day-to-day stresses of living with bipolar.
Are you ready to share some of your ideas?